I see you. I see you dreaming of your dream business or maybe you've taken your first step and you have your beautiful little baby business. I see the glow in your eye. I see your hopes for who you can impact, what a successful business can do for your family, and the spark for who YOU can become. I see you with your passion and your heart and your drive.
I see your first pitfalls and your fear and your uncertainty. I see the fears of failure. The fears of what others are actually saying about you now that you started. I see the struggles and the decisions. I see the late nights and early mornings. I see the sweat and I see the tears. I see your roller coaster of emotion.
I see you climb that first mountain and I see your hope. I see excitement as you work with your first client. You ARE DOING IT. You are making an impact! You are making INCOME! You are becoming better. I see you wanting to quit and I see your determination to succeed in the exact same breath.
Dreamer, you are no different than the successful that have come before you. Your story is yours as their story is theirs. But they both share joys and tears, and excitement. They have mountain peaks and deep valley lows.
Dreamer, you were made to be great. You were meant to make an impact. You have to keep going, because your special gift is meant to be shared. Don't get lost among the fear and the doubt and the uncertainty. Take one more step. Stay committed to why you started. Don't let the thoughts of defeat sneak in your head and take over.
Dreamer, you can continue to dream or your can wake up and make your dreams come true.
Fear. Holy crap. Once I realized that every doubt, every skepticism, every self-sabotaging behavior, ALL OF IT, came down to FEAR, my life changed. It almost makes me sick to my stomach to think how scared I was for SOOOOO LONG and how that fear prevented me from really going after it. Most people would call this taking risks, but it’s only risky when you’re fearful.
My biggest fear by far is what others would think of me. I was scared when I wasn’t as far along financially as I thought I should have been. Then I was scared of what others would think of me for bringing in more money through entrepreneurship. I was scared of what my mentors would think for trying to go big. Scared to play small, scared to play big... just keep me in my average size box. I was so freaked for so long that I am surprised I wasn’t afraid of my own shadow. While I was experiencing this, I didn’t know to identify it as fear, but when I finally got in touch with my purpose, it all became abundantly clear.
Some of the most common fears are fear of failure and fear of success. I am no stranger to either of these. Fear of failure is probably deeper for me. It’s what stops me from starting and completing things. What if it doesn’t work???My husband thinks this is totally asinine... 'It's not working NOW... what do you have to lose?' What? I don't know. My ego? Time wasted? So finally I had to realize that taking a chance wasn't failure it all. It was just part of your learning path. Sometimes you learn what works and sometimes you learn what doesn't work. But every step you take forward is a step closer to figuring it out. There's only one sure path to failure... and that's not starting at all.
Then there is the fear of success. For me, this has been the glass ceiling that I have built for myself. It was almost as if I wouldn’t be able to keep the friends and relationships that I have now if I outgrew them in success. But I have also had this limiting belief that I was only allowed to get so far, to become so successful. Anything beyond that was somehow reserved for the lucky or blessed or hand-picked. It just wasn't meant for me. This belief has really limited me from believing I could have success no matter how hard I tried. Overcoming this belief has been my biggest hurdle.
And let's not forget the fear of change. The unknown. What you can't control. In many areas of my life I became kind of a control freak as a way to attempt to keep some level of certainty in my life. Uncertainty was scary. Who knew what was on the other side. I thought control would keep me safe from the unknown. But it really just kept the fear balled up inside of me... nearly suffocating me.
What are your fears? How are they holding you back?
Now whenever I am faced with a critical decision or want to change something, I have to do a Fear self-check. Am I holding back or changing directions out of fear? Or is this moving me closer to my best self?
Fear will never go away, but many times it can show you that you are on the right track, once you show your fears who's Boss(babe).
I remember the days when the alarm would go off and I would just dread the sound. Ugh. Another day. I'll just hit snooze once. Ok maybe twice. Hmmm... I wonder how many times I can hit it and still get to work barely on time.
Then you jump out of bed, rush through your shower, maybe grab something to eat on the way out the door or maybe skip breakfast, cross your fingers that the Starbucks line isn't too long. Of course you hit the worst traffic on those days. And nothing fits. And good hair day? Fogetaboutit. It's also the day that your kids are a mess and your boss is an ass. It's the day that every other driver is out to get you.
And that's how your entire day goes. Based off of one decision for 20 min more in bed.
It's just not worth it.
Life is just way too awesome to snooze right through it. To overstimulate all day and then try to counterbalance with over-sedating.
Starting your day off right begins with starting your morning off right. And the best way to do that is to simply get your butt out of bed a little earlier! And watch how your whole day changes.
This is how I have a rockstar morning that starts an epic day:
If you started to add just one thing, what would it be??
I'm a messy hair lovin' - soulful book junkie - mompreneur who's totally addicted to helping women design a life they lovI'm here, simply, to share my truth so that it inspires you to live yours! To be your boldest, most authentic self, to find your tribe that supports your soul, and to go after success in every area of your life. e.