Have you ever felt like you need to reinvent yourself? I remember after having Lyla and barely showering. Any sort of styling my hair or makeup or structured clothing went out the window. Why bother? Until I started catching the glimpses of myself in the mirror and seeing myself as unrecognizable and no where near the woman I envisioned myself showing up as. So I took some small steps. Started styling my hair, wearing jeans.
This past year I had been feeling a similar itch. Now closer to 40 than 30, two kids later, and a major career transition, it was a good time to take a look at who I was and who I really saw myself being. I was tired of seeing a tired face. A tired face that translated into a tired mom. A tired mom that was starting to drag through my day. This is not the woman that I strive to be. This is not the mom I know I am inside.
So I decided to treat myself to a mini makeover. Fresh health, fresh face, fresh clothes, fresh hair, fresh perspective. Because I am worth it.
I had been hearing so much about Burn Bootcamp from all of the mommas. People who would just go on and on and on about their gym were Burn Sisters. A Facebook question on how to lose weight? All the pings for Burn Bootcamp. And then when I finally saw a momma that I new was struggling with weight, turn trainer, turn RIPPED, I was like OK OK, let's see what ya got. I took advantage of their two week trial. Let me get real with you. I'm a gym snob. I have skirted all over this town and tried every big box gym, all the yogas, and every boutique HIIT/Barre/Cycle studio around. I like them. I get a good workout. But all the ladies are right. Burn is different. I got a great workout. Check. But there are two game-changers here. 1) FREE CHILDCARE. Can I get a hallelujah. There is no studio style fitness out there that offers free childcare. And good childcare. It's an amazing setup with a cute little window so the kids can watch you when they're new or just want to see what the excitement's about. The do what you do, mommas. And whether the gym loves it or not, when class is out, the kids kind run like crazy through the spring mat and my heart swells. I love that this space doesn't make me apologize whatsoever for being a momma with normal children. 2) Never have I ever had moms and kids come up to me and introduce themselves when we are out in the community. Surely we have all crossed paths but instead we just kind of divert eyes or do the awkward but acknowledging nod. Not one, but TWO moms approached me. One at the pool and one at church and asked me if I worked out at Burn. When I told them I was on the trial, they welcomed me and introduced themselves. Y'all. If you are looking for a tribe, your #burnsisters are there for you.
Step 2 to my health was switching out some of my supplements and smoothies. I played with several different protein powders and smoothie plans over the month but have fallen in love with Coconut Collagen Coffee and The Fab Four Smoothie.
Coconut Collagen Coffee
1 Scoop Vital Proteins Collagen
1 Tbs Coconut or MCT oil
Fab Four Smoothie
1 serving Vanilla Protein (I am in love with Tone it up. No artificial sweeteners and very yummy)
1 Tsp Spirulina
1/4 Cup Blueberries
Next Up... My Hair
I have always been more of a short hair girl than long. I love the idea of long tousled, waves, but hate the reality. The maintenance. The weight. It's too heavy and high maintenance. My hair was beginning to grow like a weed after starting Monat products and just about as soon as I thought long would be fun, I knew it had to go. I also hadn't colored my hair since before getting pregnant with Lyla. Fortunate for me (fingers crossed) I only have two little gray hairs, which I have so fondly named Lyla and Luca. But why not add a pop of color for fun!
If you think I'm a gym snob, the gyms have nothing on my hair. I have been using salon products since I was six and I trust almost no one with my hair. I have been seeing Natalie from Loxxe on Jones since 2003 (I was like 12) and she's beyond phenomenal. When I started sending her texts of what I wanted to do, she got excited.
And I have to say, I LOVE the results!
Light up my Face
I had been saying for months how badly I needed a facial. My face was just starting to look so dull and tired. The dark spots felt darker and pores felt like craters. So when my friend, Emily said she was looking for influencers to share about some services, my hand was raised so high. Pick Me!!! After a brief consultation, we determined that the right path for me was RF Microneedling and Laser Resurphacing.
I arrived a Synergy, which is a treat in itself with the spa atmosphere. Emily was so great at walking me through the steps and what to expect. She used a numbing gel on my face and the treatment took approximately two hours. While I really didn't know what to expect after, the upcoming days (and weeks) completely blew my mind. As old sun damage and hormone spots began to lighten up, I fell so in love with my skin. Most days, I don't feel self-conscious about not wearing makeup! My skin is even and bright and has a glow to it. Without a doubt, this was the best thing that I could have done for myself.
It's true. Most of my family clothes budget and energy goes to the kids. So my wardrobe is often a haphazard mix of something that I grabbed from Target on the way to the diaper aisle or the $8 Old Navy Dress when I'm shopping for the kids. And with changing sizes so many times over the years (feet included), it seems like the options in my closet were just abysmal.
Now your girl is mostly a minimalist... or a simplest. I don't really subscribe to the need for excess. But a few pieces of clothes that I love. Like really LOVE. So that when I look at my options, I LOVE all of them. The best way I have found to do this is by creating a capsule wardrobe. A capsule wardrobe just focuses on having your wardrobe staples with a few fun pieces. Gap Jeans, a few Target tops, and some fun pieces from my favorite local boutique, The Flourish Market. I'm still working on gathering some new shoes, but so far, I'm loving what I have.
As a momma where some days the most exciting place I go is the car pool line, I realize that I don't do this for anyone else. I do this for me. Heck, I do this for my favorite people- Chuck, Lyla, and Luca. Because the 4 of us are the ones that deserve the best parts of me. And momma, when I look good, I feel good and show up as my best self.
If you could start your makeover, what's the one thing you would start with first?
I'm a messy hair lovin' - soulful book junkie - mompreneur who's totally addicted to helping women design a life they lovI'm here, simply, to share my truth so that it inspires you to live yours! To be your boldest, most authentic self, to find your tribe that supports your soul, and to go after success in every area of your life. e.