For those that don't know, in Spring of 2018, my hubs and I got a bug up our butt and decided to put our house on the market, drastically downsize and travel the control in an RV with our two young kids. You can only imagine the hiccups along the way and during the process, we decided to re-evaluate. But that process was everything.
Just getting prepared and in the mindset opened my eyes to a whole different world of simplicity. Where does one start when they want to do said adventure. With the google of course... and then Instagram. Y'all. I found so many families doing this and loved watching their triumphs and hiccups. I loved learning how this process transformed their marriages, relationships with their children, relationships with their stuff, pretty much all relationships. I marveled at the spirituality in it all. I mean one must have God if you are going to take a cold, 5 minute shower in a teeny bathroom that you share with several other people... and this was before I started using Monat and dry shampoo.
I did a massive clutter overall and before the internet lost their mind over Marie Condo, I had learned her sacred principle: Does it bring you joy? As I was preparing for our community yard sale, this led the pack in my easy decision making to move it into the sale. If the answer was no, then it was out. I mean, I was going to have to do some ridiculous down-sizing so lets at least start there. I learned very quickly how many items I had just purchased in my meager attempt to take a Pinterest room and recreate it on a dime budget. So many items that brought zero joy. Just this process alone had me take great inventory in my purchasing and how emotions drive our purchases. Buy something for the quick fix, because you think it's going to fill a need (or really, want) just to bring it home and create more angst. Instead, if I would get really intentional with what I want and have a little patience, I can find pieces that truly bring significant joy instead of just Prime delivery speed.
So as the story goes, we decided not to move, not to sell our home, and luckily, not sell all of our late furniture. And as we stayed, I still found myself daydreaming of a simpler existence. Moving into the country with more land to let the children play free. Moving to Bali where lifestyle is insanely affordable. Moving to a tiny lake cottage where I can always see the water.
Since we are staying put, for now, I have started to ask myself a very important question:
How can I satisfy what's missing in my life by staying exactly where I am??
Isn't this, indeed, what mediation is all about. The knowing that we have everything we need right in this very moment. And well, if we don't, then what are the steps to cultivate it?
Here are a few ways in which I fantasized simplicity, intentionality, and most importantly, JOY and how I am creating them now. You know, kind of like Cheryl Strayed in Wild, or Elizabeth Gilbert in Eat, Pray Love, but far more Gretchen Rubin's Happiness Project without the monthly rules.
And there is still so much more work to be done. I still want to create more joy, have a deeper love in my marriage, be more present with my children, make a lot of money, and build a bigger community of women who want to create a life they love.
I'm a messy hair lovin' - soulful book junkie - mompreneur who's totally addicted to helping women design a life they lovI'm here, simply, to share my truth so that it inspires you to live yours! To be your boldest, most authentic self, to find your tribe that supports your soul, and to go after success in every area of your life. e.