I type words as they spill from my soul. They are the downloads from the universe, the lessons in action, and the truth as I am seeking it.
This past Friday, I hosted my first women's circle. I have been feeling called to lead a group of women in this capacity for some time but I really didn't even know it existed beyond the vision in my heart. It was simply an idea brewing. An experience kind of like yoga but without the yoga. Something that connects you physically and spiritually, creates vulnerability yet safety. An experience that crashes your walls and heals your heart. A mix of group therapy and some spiritual experience.
This Summer, I read Rise Sister Rise, by Rebecca Campbell and in one of her reflections she shares an experience in circle. Instantly, I thought to myself, THAT'S IT! But still I wasn't really sure how or what. The logistics still seemed a little far.
And then this Fall I was invited to speak on a self-care panel and met my friend, Jess (remember Jess from Season 2 of the podcast?!) where her and a few of the women were talking about a circle she held. Goosebumps. I immediately interjected asking for more. Who? Where? How? I wanted all of the details. A few months later I attended one of Jess's circles and it just immediately clicked.
This, my sweet ones, is exactly how manifestation works. I seed is planted in your heart. You water it. You tend to it when the signs open up, and then your seed blooms. If done right, somehow you just know everything you need to know and are delivered all of your missing elements along the way.
As 2019 started to close and I began to look ahead to 2020 and set my intentions, a women's circle just felt like the truthiest truth that could exist. So even with my bundle of nerves and simultaneous rooted knowing, I set the date for the new moon.
I would say coincidentally - but are there really any coincidences - I began really tuning into the moon and our own 'moon cycles' last fall. I started tracking my period really closely and diving into the wisdom that accompanies the moon. I wanted to see how closely this mirrored my natural moods and intuitive guidance. Wouldn't you know it? It was nearly spot on, while also really helping me see where my hormones dropped (another post for another day). The point being, the wisdom of the moon has been so powerful for me that aligning it with the woman's circle was a true aligned decision.
ok ok but what exactly is it
After posting a few pictures online, I got so many questions, "What exactly is a women's circle??????"
I hate to sound cliche but it is hard to describe without being there because so much of circle is feeling (there's that divine feminine again). Simply giving you the layout or the format will help you understand about 20% of your question, but I will still do my best.
Women's Circle is all about creating safe space for connection and personal healing. At the start of each circle, I take careful time to set the space including cleansing with smudge and sound. I set my intention for the room and invitation.
When you arrive, you are invited to sit wherever you feel called in the circle. The dress is comfortable because we are sitting on the floor for about two hours. So be you. Come as you are. Wear relaxed clothing. Feel free to wash your face (because you never know when the tears will release). Bring extra pillows and meditation cushions.
The start of circle is my chance to welcome you, open circle, and just give a little bit of introduction to our format and theme. Yes, there's a theme that we use to create dialogue.
Circle is not a space for me to be your coach, though I may probe a little if I think you can go deeper. But I am not there to offer you any solutions, because you are fully capable of healing yourself.
Questions and answers are formulated around meditation, breath, and just connecting with your divine spirit. It's a way to open the portals of your heart and really get connected to your intuition. It's a chance to open yourself up to other women who are equally queens and hot messes, knowing you are no better or no worse.
Circle is just a beautiful connection of exploration, connectivity, and healing.
If you love this and want to come, here is the date to our next circle. Hope to see you there.
Leadership was never really a principle that interested me. In fact, I remember a time when I was a therapist and really leading my practice with mindfulness philosophies (side bar: my first Twitter handle was MindfulBrook… I haven’t been on Twitter in probably 5 years but apparently I connected it to my Facebook and still tweet away! I should fix that except I have no idea what any of my login info is.) Anywho. A friend of mine, Brian approached me with a collab idea: creating a leadership program around the principles of health, wellness, and mindfulness. I really wasn’t that interested because leadership then just felt very old white man. Stuffy. I wasn’t able to articulate it at the time but this is patriarchy. The feeling that there is a club and I didn’t get the invite so I’m going to play a different game over here.
It wasn’t until I stepped into the entrepreneurial space that I really started studying leadership. Personal development is a no-brainer for any entrepreneur and my learner self loves this stuff. But time and time again, I would read books written by old white men and feel that this didn’t really apply to me. I specifically remember How to Win Friends and Influence People and the pronouns were all he. John Maxwell over and over just felt like he was talking to someone else. But really it was when I read 10x Rule by Grant Cardone that I felt my first real push back. He was sharing his belief on full life success and his priority to also be a good father. He was telling how he gets up with his daughter first thing so that his wife could have some time to herself and they would often go grocery shopping. It was maybe like two hours that he spent with her. And while that is all well and good, I kept thinking about his wife. Because when he turned his kiddo back over to momma, he was free. Free to go build his business both with his time but also with his mind. I, on the other hand, suffered bad with mom guilt. From taking on all the things. I felt like a failure in every area. It is necessary to say here, that I have no problems with Dale Carnegie or John Maxwell or Grant Cardone. They have valuable content. The problem is that their content is from their singular lens, yet taught that it’s a blanket method for all. When information is expelled in that way we run the risk of people feeling like there is something wrong with them. You absolutely can be successful and sell and have influence without taking the stance that you cover all demographics. This is privilege. Do you see that? People vibe with different people. For me, I would read Brene Brown and just feel at home.
The struggle for me, at the time, was business was suffering and so was I. I lost my center of gravity and therefore was easily swayed. We call this your root chakra. It’s that energy field that keeps you planted and grounded, allows you to feel safe and protected, and keeps you firmly rooted in who you are. I often share with my clients my personal vision of what the healing journey looks like and for me, it’s an oak tree. Being so solid and strong and rooted in who you are, that even when the winds pick up and your leaves get rustled, your center, your core, your trunk barely moves. But I was still this little wispy thing getting thrown around. So if someone told me 10x, I would 10x until I burnt out. If someone sold me hustle and grind as being cool, I would hustle and grind with the best of them. If someone said, No excuses, I would make sure I could out excuse anyone. All the while, feeling this tug in my gut that was telling me, this isn’t how it’s supposed to be. I was acting as a soldier when I’m supposed to be the medic.
Finally I stopped. And then I crumbled. That’s how this works, you know. You will get the whispers first and if you don’t follow those, you will get bigger signs, and if you still don’t pay attention, you will get really big bricks dumped on you until you are forced to pay attention. I follow the little niggles now.
But after I crumbled and picked up the pieces, I proceeded with caution. The only thing I knew to be true is that my intuition was now leading the way. It didn’t matter how twisty the journey, I was following it. And as I did, I realized that the way I felt called to do things was not wrong or bad. Not at all. It was just different. It was feminine and it was EQUALLY as valuable in any space.
A FEW THINGS THAT CHANGEd
It’s funny as I look at my life now and my life two years ago, I am the exact same person and I am COMPLETELY different in the same breath. Some of my actions weren’t wrong, but they were about 2 degrees off. I don’t sail, but I know enough that if you chart your course and are two degrees off in your journey, you will end up some place very different. That’s life too. We set goals because we are really chasing an emotion. And we believe that the achievement of the goal will help us feel that emotion. You may achieve your goal but miss your internal mark. And that’s why you can lose the weight, or get the promotion, or land your perfect partner and still feel like a ball of anxious nerves.
Through this process I have identified specific traits that are divinely feminine. There are of course, divine masculine traits! But in today’s society there is also a heightened level of toxic masculine in the business and work force (and plenty of toxic feminine but not as dominant in the work force). Every man and woman has some degree of masculine and feminine. Think of them as being on a continuum like Meyer’s Briggs. You aren’t just one or the other but a certain percentage. The goal with healing yourself and creating unity with your spirit is to find your unique combination.
Let’s take a look:
If you would like help exploring these more, schedule your free clarity call and I would be happy to help guide you.
The Divine Feminine is taking ancient feminine wisdom and remembering our intuitive feminine spirit in today’s modern world. Now if we take you back. Way, way back. Once upon a time women were revered as the goddesses we are. I mean we can make humans. This is just ridiculously obvious to me. But, someone didn’t like that. Actually lots of someones across various cultures and countries. Our power threatened the masculinity and thus, eons of patriarchy has been the norm. This did not come without a fight, like the Salem Witch Trials, brutality of our bodies, alienation of our sisterhood, and a stripping of our intuitive wisdom until we just forgot.
And while some may contest that sure we can work in jobs or stay home with babies and have these rights, the truth is our sisterhood in today’s world is suffering deeply. We are more prone to experience anxiety and depression, at the height of our loneliness, detached from our intuition thus creating extreme levels of fear and doubt, and at war with our own bodies. We are chasing things that don’t matter in careers that don’t bring us joy. We are riddled in mom guilt. And sure, while we may have a few seats at some of the tables, usually it was earned by playing the game of patriarchy instead of as our divine selves.
This shift in consciousness, in a new way of being, leading, and loving in the world IS HAPPENING.
I know this sounds too good to be true. Like heaven on earth. But this is who we are in our core at our deepest level. This is our soul’s desire.
You don’t have to take my word for it. Try it yourself. Listen to my podcasts, watch my videos, read my posts, and feel into this. I have every confidence that you can heal and guide yourself into your own knowing. But sometimes it just feels really good to have a partner in your journey. Sometimes you keep hitting dead ends and want to speed up the process. And sometimes, some sisters just hold certain gifts (my purpose) that can help shine a light for you where it is dim. If this feels right, then that’s what I am here for.
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I'm a messy hair lovin' - soulful book junkie - mompreneur who's totally addicted to helping women design a life they lovI'm here, simply, to share my truth so that it inspires you to live yours! To be your boldest, most authentic self, to find your tribe that supports your soul, and to go after success in every area of your life. e.