Last year, I took a little break from so much business personal development and started to embrace the beautiful words from women I admire. Brene Brown, Joanna Gaines, Glennon Doyle, and Shauna Niequist to name a few. Shauna's book, Present over Perfect was the first time I really heard the busy mom talk about the crave of the slow down. I had just returned from a trip to the lake where my life was that - slower. Mindful. Easy joy. It was still kids and chaos. But it was this delicious quiet. Poor internet connections. No TV except for maybe an evening movie in the kids' bunk. Slow mornings with coffee and watching the water. Puzzles in the afternoon. Easy jogs before it got too hot. Happy hour and lots of laughs. Go to bed when you're tired. Wake up with the sun or the first kid.
I craved this feeling. All year round. I wanted more. Because my soul was happy. I had no idea how to get more of it. So it started with Sundays. Pancakes and a slow simmering sauce fill the air. Chores are complete for the day. No agenda. No stress. No to-do's and commitments.
And yet when Monday rolled around, I would rejoin the alarm clock club. Up and atta 'em. Time to beast the day.
Can you feel the incongruence in my life?
My soul calls for one thing and yet I am forcing another. Why? Because that's what they say you have to do. (Who 'they' are, I am not sure because no one walks around inside my body but me).
I do love mornings though. I am more alive. And I do love the opportunity to get myself fully awake before my kids. But who says I have to pop out of bed, grind out a workout, scribble in my gratitude (I am so happy and grateful, that I am not grinding out my morning), and light myself on fire to have a good day?
I actually much prefer some deep breaths, a little stretch, and the casualness of opening my curtains. I love walking through my quiet house with reflections and visions for a new day. I like leisurely drinking my water. I love sipping in a breath of gratitude and exhaling my intentions for the day. I love when the day feels challenging but does not create anxiety with a never-ending to-do list.
I am realizing that my badge of honor does not come from winning the Busy Contest, but rather from clearly defining what I want from my day and to whom I am going to contribute. So if you are following me in IG stories, you will likely see a different pace. One that is allowing me to get present with what will bring my joy and gratitude next. It is time to stop adding fuel to the busy fire and start really getting clear on what will bring y life joy, peace, and accomplishment.
Did you know that connecting with you like this is a dream of mine? I want to write the words that touch your soul. That help to wake us up and unify us. If this blog touches and inspires you, would you consider sharing it out? I know it takes a village and I value mine big time. I know each of us has the power to help all of us and your shares may not just change my life, but the lives of so many others. xoxo, B
I'm a messy hair lovin' - soulful book junkie - mompreneur who's totally addicted to helping women design a life they lovI'm here, simply, to share my truth so that it inspires you to live yours! To be your boldest, most authentic self, to find your tribe that supports your soul, and to go after success in every area of your life. e.