I remember when I first started dreaming about starting my own business. Business actually had nothing to do with it, as so many budding entrepreneur stories go. I knew I had an idea for how to serve people and if the job wasn't there, I was determined to create it. Remember this actually surprises me because I don't remember myself being bold, but I guess I have always had a little spice in me.
My first concept was to create a holistic wellness center. You know, like counseling, yoga, nutrition, maybe massage. Things that create peace and enlightenment from a mind/body/soul level. I tried piecing it together. I tried looking for partnerships. I even went on a rampage with the Pepsi Refresh competition and bombed a presentation in front of Angel Investors.
I had no idea how much money I was going to make or even how much money it would take to live the life I wanted to live. I didn't understand the kind of work that it would take and what that would look like alongside motherhood. I just knew that I couldn't work a job that didn't bring me great joy. My money story was all a mess. Little did I know then, that not being solid in the MONEY part of business would inevitably steal joy and also get my vision for how to serve really murky.
My husband on the other hand has always had the entrepreneurial mindset and vision of making a lot of money. Somewhere along the way of my visions of a wellness center and his vision of getting rich, we joined efforts and went into business together. I can confidently say now, that this was an incredible learning experience, though it didn't take either one of us to our end goal. Some would call this a failure. Others would call us quitters. But the truth is that we weren't happy. And the reason we weren't happy is because neither one of us were in alignment. My husband really wasn't that interested in helping people in the industry we were in, but he wanted to make a lot of money. I, on the other hand, just started to follow his passions and caught a money vision but lost my initial outcome of how to help people.
Business works well when your vision for impact is in alignment with your vision for your earnings.
In order to have a business that I would deem a success, meaning it brings you great personal fulfillment and brings money into your pocket in the amounts that you desire to live your best life, while also giving you the freedom to live that life.
So, here I was, years later. I am not making the income that I wanted to at this stage in my life and so much has changed with becoming a mom and lessons that I have learned and the evolving internet that I started to feel kind of lost. Who was I and who was I meant to serve? What is my money story? How much do I want to make and what feels honest in terms of earnings? Because while I love woo-woo stuff, I don't actually believe that money is just going to fall out of the sky.
So bit by bit I started to put the pieces together. I started to learn who I was. I started to remember my true voice and distinguish that from being a parrot. I started to embrace the stage of life that I am in right now, today. Not the stage that I anticipate being in.
I learned that I love to write. Like really love it. I learned that a one-size-fits-all is bullshit. With everything. Diets, relationships, parenting, business. There might be some commonalities, some systems that work for more than one person but there is nothing that's tried and true for everyone. And I learned that I REALLY liked to talk about that because that and only that is what will help women get to where they want to be.
And now to put all of this together, right? And monetize it. Because as I told a friend of mine recently, who asked if I needed to make money writing, YES! I LIKE TO MAKE MONEY. I do! I think it's fun. I love when money hits the bank account. I love pouring myself into the things I love and knowing that all of my financials are taken care of and abundant. I love being generous. I love traveling. I love exploring. And I absolutely love not having money problems. I love how the energy that once went to stress and anxiety and worry, that used to be a source of tension in my marriage, is gone. I love that. I want more of that. I want others to have more of that. Can you imagine? Imagine if everyone who had money problems could suddenly free up those emotions and put them to good.
So, Yes, girlfriend. I have to make money. i want to make money. i love making money.
But as the story started, money, to me is in proportion to my worth. And my worth is connected to my truth. So if I want to make money, I best get connected to what is connected to my heart. And sister, if you want to make some serious money, I suggest you do the same.
I'm a messy hair lovin' - soulful book junkie - mompreneur who's totally addicted to helping women design a life they lovI'm here, simply, to share my truth so that it inspires you to live yours! To be your boldest, most authentic self, to find your tribe that supports your soul, and to go after success in every area of your life. e.