The witching hour.
It's like, need I say more? From the time I pick my daughter up from school to the time I run out of their rooms doing the end zone dance is commonly referred to as the witching hour.
Why don't we just call it Happy Hour? Because that's quite often what it turns into if I'm not feeling strong enough to handle it on my own. "Here kids. You figure it out, momma is going to pour a glass of wine and scroll because y'all are level 'too nuts' for me to deal today."
I know I'm not the only one (please tell me I'm not the only one).
But for reals. After all of that, I have to say, I'm quite lucky. My kids are really good sleepers and even pretty easy to put down for bed. I know many would dream for the opportunity to whisper goodnight and know that our night is done.
I think something that has really helped all of us is my militant-like demand for a stable bed-time routine. Dinner. Bath. Stories. Bed. Always in that order. Always and never deviated from. My kids skip a nighttime bath maybe 5 times a year. I don't care if they jump in, get a quick wipe down, and jump out. It's the routine and expectation.
Now that doesn't mean the routine doesn't come with some drama. We have plenty of crying, silliness, and procrastination. (Though one thing that has helped some of the tears (from brushing hair) is the Monat Junior line. That has worked wonders for a super soft brushing and no more tears!) But this simple routine that my children could recite and often lead the way on has conditioned their expectations.
Early parenting years are hard. It's hard when parents of older kids tell you to embrace it. Like you haven't peed alone in four years and there are unending hours in the day where you feel like you are literally just putting out fires nonstop and you just need some dang oxygen. But just like my kiddos rely on this routine, I am learning to rely managing my expectations (for this time of day) and setting more intentional goal setting for this stage of life. Most importantly I am learning to rely on my momma community more. To collapse in their arms when I can't stand alone anymore. There is nothing more refreshing than being with a group of women who are doing life well, but don't have to show up perfect all the time.
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